Bria Washington

I'm a 2nd year student at ASC in Decatur, GA and I love to dance---whether performing, on the dance floor, or the privacy of my own room! It's an expression of me and my thoughts; it's a gift. If you'd like to learn more about me, feel free to send an email. Even better, I'm on FACEBOOK!! Contact Author

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What's Love Got to Do With It?

This day in age, the topic of dating and relationships is hot, but what's love really got to do with it---what are we really searching for when we long for the perfect man/woman to marry? Many times we forget that God is the source of our love, for ourselves and for others, therefore we must recognize His great love for us, first, in order to understand our love for others which shall be a reflection of Him.

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Some of us are in a relationship, some of us engaged, and some of us are single. Some of us are searching and some of us are not. Some of us are sad, lonely, desperate---some of us are not. This whole relationship/dating thing seems to be a prevalent issue among us right now. Why is this such a hot topic?

At ACC (Atlanta Christmas Conference 2006), I pondered and pondered over this issue, trying to understand myself, and what I felt. In the end, what I've come to is just this....I'm not ready, and that's that. Sure, I want to get married. I want this perfect guy to come and sweep me up into his arms to my perfect house in a perfect fairytale world, just like Jennifer Lopez in "The Wedding Planner" and "Maid in Manhattan" or the love story/wedding scene in "Madea's Family Reunion" (I could list more, but that could get boring so I'll spare you). In reality, it won't always be that perfect, but nevertheless, I've come to realize I've been looking in the wrong direction. The priorities of my heart were all mixed up. Maybe some of you can understand.

It's funny, because I didn't listen to any lectures or seminars on relationships at the conference, yet I've learned so much through other things where He just spoke to me. That's how my God works; one thing doesn't seem to correspond with another, but in the end it all works out according to His great plan. Anywho, I've been single my whole life--20 years past December---and it's tough to see my good friends, not to mention my younger sister, get into and out of relationships when I've experienced not a one. Some of them are engaged and some of them are my age and married!! Can you relate? Well, I felt rejected. In the past I've given pieces of my heart away with no return from the reciever. Now I've come to see that being single all these years is one of God's gifts to me.....I won't have to face the break-ups, the mistakes of having gone too far, I'm free from the shame some of my friends have felt and discussed with me.

What God wants from me, and from those of you who are somewhat in the same state as me, is for us to love Him first, not the guy/girl next door. Even those of you who have already been in relationships, but are longing for one that will last. He wants our hearts to cry out with romance for Him. That's what we're missing...what I've been missing. When we do get to share a love with that man/woman God provides for us to marry, it will be a reflection of God's love for us---GOD'S LOVE FOR US. First we have to learn of that great love, then recieve and believe it, and then finally, will we be able to give and recieve such unconditional love to/from others. When my heart is ready He'll send a wonderful, godly man my way if it is according to His plans. Maybe I've met him, maybe I haven't just yet, but I'm not to worry about this. My future is His.

Of course, I'll still drool over that dark-haired guitarrist in the band, or that beautifully musculared athlete, or that starving artist with words that flow out of his mouth like dripping honey, but that's okay. I know that what He has for me, is indeed for me, and I'll just wait for Him to let me know just what it is. I guess what I'm trying to say, after so many words, is to turn your hearts to God. Lift your eyes and your hands to Him and let Him embrace you---experience a love that cannot be compared to any other. He'll never let you go, and that's a promise. To my friends (and others whom I don't know) who have already decided to turn away from any notion of God, I beg of you to reconsider.

So, what's love got to do with it? Everything. God's love is everything we need. It sustains, encourages, perseveres, provides, restores, heals, forgives, understands. Consider Him.