Julian Battle
Julian Battle's Story
Keeping It Secret
The problem was this - I was dating a lovely young lady whose parents didn't approve of interracial relationships. We kept our relationship a secret. . .
The problem was this - I desired to be in a relationship. In my senior year in high school (at the end), I was dating a lovely young lady whose parents didn't approve of interracial relationships. We kept our relationship a secret from them so we could continue to see each other. My parents knew I was dating her but I failed to mention how her parents felt about it because I knew they would tell me not to see her.
So I became rebellious. Because of this, I wanted to see my girlfriend more and more when the opportunity presented itself. I didn't feel guilty about sneaking around as long as I got a chance to see her.
The hardest part was that our relationship became very physical. It was really the only reason why I wanted to see her. As a result, the more physical we became, the more I wanted to have sex with her. I know sex before marriage was wrong but I didn't care. So I made the decision that the next time I saw her, I was going to ask about it.
The worst part was that the next time we saw each other, we got caught by her mom. After the event, I never spoke to her again. Her parents forbid it.
If I had stayed in that situation, I truly believe that I would be a daddy right now. My ex-girlfriend started dating a guy a few weeks after we broke up and got pregnant. If I had stayed in that situation, it would have been me instead of him.
I saw God working in the situation when the girl's mom caught us in my car. He allowed that to happen because it wasn't part of His plan for me and He had a bigger purpose for me that didn't involve that relationship. I was in it for all the wrong reasons.
Because of God's intervention, I was able to go to college with no string attached. The burden of being in a relationship was non-existent in my life. So I could concentrate on other things, such as school.
Since then, God has really shown me how to relate to young ladies in a more godly fashion. I can still have a good time with a girl without being physical with them. God wants our relationships to be pure and holy. Though I still struggle with desiring to be in a relationship, I know I want to be in it for the right reasons, which are God's reasons.
-Julian